"I have been waiting my whole life for this." That is what comes to mind when I think about my body and my mind in this current moment. It took so long to get here and I am excited to share my chubby self lovin' tips with you all! *Pass the snacks!*
I have been a foodie ever since I can remember. I loved cooking from a young age and my friends always begged me to make my signature snacks. I was always petite and tiny yet I ate any and everything I wanted. I was a very active kid and danced seven days a week so I was always hungry- some things never change! When I became a young adult I realized if I ate whatever I want I would start to see a difference in my body- damn metabolism. Around the age of 21 I became obsessive with what I ate and how much I worked out. While I looked like a million bucks and felt like I had it all I slowly spiraled into an unhealthy relationship with both the gym and food. I became a gluten free vegetarian so that no matter where I went I could tell people I couldn't have certain things. Therefore, not eating seemed OK in social settings. I was young, thin and skinny for all the wrong reasons.
I am forever grateful my moms teachings of positive body image growing up sunk in and I caught myself before it could have gotten way worse. I began hiking with my dogs instead of forcing myself to go to the gym and I ate wholesome meals that satisfied me. I slowly regained my weight and my healthy relationship with food again.
Then, something amazing happened to me- marriage.
Marriage. Such a beautiful thing that happened to my life and my waistline. My husband and I are both foodies and going out to eat is our love language. We absolutely adore a good snack and share a love for carbs. Over the years our weight has crept up but we didn't even notice because we were so busy loving each other. (We also don't own a scale.) I blame leggings for growing with me and always being so supportive. While we are a bit chubbier than our wedding day I can honestly say we have had so much fun in our first couple years of marriage.
What led me to write this post was people's assumptions that since I am now chubby I am not happy. I've never felt so much self confidence and self love before in my life. I wanted to share 5 things that have helped me grow into who I am right now and how my size has nothing to do with my attitude.
1. Surround yourself with people who make you feel beautiful.
I think this rings true to everything in your life that you are who you surround yourself with. If something doesn't feel right or someone makes you feel bad for how you look they are not the right tribe. In all honesty I think I didn't really dwell or notice my weight change because my husband makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. He still compliments me daily and notices when I do something different. He is a big factor in my confidence and while I don't think you need a man to tell you your beautiful all the time, I think God knew exactly what I needed when he gave me Jacob. Peoples words can make or break you and its important to surround yourself with those that make you feel beautiful inside and out. Dogs are really great at this, the most selfless love there is.
2. Stop shopping at stores that make you feel insecure.
I can't express this enough- stop shopping at stores that make you feel fat or insecure. I kept seeing on trend styles that my double D's could never hang freely in haha! Find stores that sell styles made for your body type and rock IT! I love fashion and that will never go away because of a number. Being comfy is the most important thing to me and finding stores that made me feel good changed the game.
3. Find something you LOVE for exercise!
It's time to find something you enjoy doing for exercise. For me there is nothing I love more then hiking with my dogs and husband. You can also start a hobby farm then you really never stop moving. ;-) What works for some people may not work for you. Finding something that gives you endorphins and keeps you moving is the key to mental happiness. It's a double wammy when your physical health aligns with your mental health.
4. Start ACTING like you love yourself.
How you act and what you say has a huge impact on your confidence. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have! Loving your self is NOT selfish or vain its key to finding your joy. Start focusing on things you DO love about yourself. For me it's my eyebrows. Sure it sounds silly but once my eyebrows are on for the day I can do ANYTHING. Challenge yourself right now... what is one physical thing you love about yourself?
5. STOP COMPARING.
Comparison KILLS creativity. Can you imagine how boring this world would be if we were all the same? EveryBODY is different and beautiful. Don't let comparison steal your joy. You are unique, beautiful and wonderfully made. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were a day ago. Focus inward and love yo'self for who you are.
While these are just a few ways to start loving yourself for who you are I hope they are encouraging and kind. “YOU’RE ALWAYS WITH YOURSELF, SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL ENJOY THE COMPANY.” – DIANE VON FURSTENBERG